As someone that has suffered from panic attacks for a few decades. I realized that many of the concepts in the DARE strategy for dealing with anxiety were already in my tool kit. Because often I had to travel on long flights or be out my comfort zone or on stage. I had to develop ways to deal with the anxiety. Highly recommend for anyone that is dealing with anxiety and looking for healthy ways to redirect the energy.
Brene always brings her “A” game. Dare to Lead is no different. Taking all her previous work and putting a spin on it for what it means to bring her principles to the leadership table. Empathy just isn’t talked about enough in the context of leadership. Let’s hope that this has a cascading effect, where it raises the bar for leaders.
If you want a deep dive into Uber and AirBnB this does a reasonable job. It highlights how they fight against the status quo and regulation in general. The brash attitude of the founders pushing against the norm (sometimes to everyone’s detriment) to push collaborative consumption models circumventing decades of regulation is highlighted. There is a lot to learn if you are in a position to take on the normative behavior at scale.
Flanagan continues to develop his characters. Will & Horace really blossom in this quest against Morgarath. I find it near impossible to put books in the Ranger’s Apprentice down. I haven’t liked something this much since Piers Anthony Xanth series.
Godin helps highlight what it is to be remarkable. The need to zig when others are zagging. Quick read with all the right stuff. If you are trying to market something, you should read this book. If you are managing products, you should read this book!
What a wild ride. This is a tale of good people, gone bad. Great investigative reporting turned into a book. If you want to understand what it looks like when someone becomes obsessed with winning and puts people that hurt them more than help them as mentors. Theranos is about as toxic as it comes. This is the down side to Silicon Valley that isn’t talked about enough.
The next time you have a flight that is more than an hour and a half, consider using it to get productive. As soon as “larger” electronic devices are allowed to be brought out, fire up your computer/tablet and connect to the Internet.
Get all your email boxes to zero, if you haven’t already. Open up your todo list application (like Things) and start knocking things off the list. If you don’t have a todo list application, start collecting your todos.
Once all that is done start writing.
This is particularly useful because in air wifi is notoriously poor. Making it suck for those evil distractions like Facebook, Slack, etc. However, it silence and focus is good for writing or responding.
It only requires the following:
Charge your device fully before boarding
Purchase WiFi if you don’t already get it for free
If you don’t have a device or just don’t want to get things done. I suggest reading a good book or taking a nap. Either will refresh you for whatever is ahead at your next destination.
If you are an introvert like me the last thing you want to do is spend time “networking”. Even if you are an extrovert your time is valuable and just mingling isn’t going to cut the mustard if you want to get any kind of meaningful results. So what is the best strategy when attending an event with intention of networking?
1. Be yourself, don’t sell yourself.
Authenticity reigns supreme when it comes to building relationships. The last thing you want to do is come off as someone trying to sell something. No one wants to be sold. Especially if you have to not be yourself to do it. People are attracted to people they can relate to and interact with. They can spot fake a mile away. Don’t be fake!
2. Take the time to get to know people.
Time is valuable, but so are deep relationships. If you want to be connected you have to be able to connect beyond the surface. Don’t try to meet every single person at an event. Find one or two people that fascinate you and learn something real about them. Walk away with the start of relationship not a business card.
3. Don’t lead with what you do.
You are not what your job title on the business card says or the place where you earn your income. If you lead with that you set the tone of the relationship as being transactional. If you lead with who you are and what makes you tick you open the door to connect in ways you may have never thought possible.
4. Get beyond small talk.
How about that weather. Boy traffic was a bear getting here. Anyone paying attention knows these things already. Get past them as quick as humanly possible, dive right into the deep end. It will scare away the people that aren’t capable of going deep and will attract those that are willing to make a connection. If nothing else it is memorable.
5. Help understand what people need so you can help them get it.
When getting to know someone understand their passions, desires and what it is that is holding them from obtaining what they want. If you help someone get what they want the power of paying it forward on their part sets off a chain reaction that comes back ten fold, but that’s not why you should do it. You shoudl do it because it feels damn good to help someone get along in the world.
6. Leave with connections and action items.
Make sure you have a way to connect and follow up with those you made connections with. If you are going to help them achieve their goals you will need to be able to get in touch with them. Have a next action to engage with before leaving them. Agree to connect them to someone, set a time to continue the relationship or provide them resources to move them forward.
7. Avoid people who are selling themselves or their products.
Don’t waste your time. If someone is selling give them a way to contact you to give you information on what it is they are selling and move to the next person. You can always review a sales pitch on your own time and terms. Connecting with people requires your full presence, so you should optimize your face to face time with activities that can’t be done on your own time. Invest your time with people that will be vulnerable enough to share their needs.
A great companion to Maxwell’s 21 Laws of Leadership. You can read this in one sitting, but it will take a lifetime to grasp it’s content fully. A chapter a week might be a better approach. The 21 Qualities:
1. CHARACTER: Be a Piece of the Rock
2. CHARISMA: The First Impression Can Seal the Deal
3. COMMITMENT: It Separates Doers from Dreamers
4. COMMUNICATION: Without It You Travel Alone
5. COMPETENCE: If you Build It, They Will Come
6. COURAGE: One Person with Courage Is a Majority
7. DISCERNMENT: Put an End to Unsolved Mysteries
8. FOCUS: The Sharper It Is, the Sharper You Are
9. GENEROSITY: Your Candle Loses Nothing When It Lights Another
10. INITIATIVE: You Won’t Leave Home Without It
11. LISTENING: To Connect with Their Hearts, Use Your Ears
12. PASSION: Take This Life and Love It
13. POSITIVE ATTITUDE: If You Believe You Can, You Can
14. PROBLEM SOLVING: You Can’t Let Your Problems Be a Problem
15. RELATIONSHIPS: If You Get Along, They’ll Go Along
16. RESPONSIBILITY: If You Won’t Carry the Ball, You Can’t Lead the Team
17. SECURITY: Competence Never Compensates for Insecurity
18. SELF- DISCIPLINE: The First Person You Lead Is You
19. SERVANTHOOD: To Get Ahead, Put Others First
20. TEACHABILITY: To Keep Leading, Keep Learning
21. VISION: You Can Seize Only What You Can See
If you could grow in any of these areas this book is for you!